Anonymous A. answered • 01/06/22
Effective English Tutor Specializing in Writing
I like to think it is less about being okay or not and more about the reason you are lying to them. Generally, I think that honesty prevails; however, I also understand that it might not always be that simple for everyone. If you love someone, you should try to be as honest with them as possible because more often than not, they will appreciate your honesty over lies (though I say this with caution). In the event that your honesty ends up hurting them, I think that's something you're going to have to accept because feelings are always valid. Let people feel how they need to feel, but I think it's also important that you acknowledge your part in the matter. If you are lying to someone to protect yourself, then I would say that's wrong and selfish. However, in the event that your intention is to protect this person you love, well, you could still be at fault, but it's also reasonable to consider your intentions. With that in mind, I think two things can be true at once: you could be trying to protect someone or have another reason for lying, but doing so could also end up hurting that person -- in simpler terms, you could still be wrong. That being said, also consider that your intentions and the effect those intentions have on others are two separate things, so even if you had good intentions, understand that you might still end up hurting someone. In the end, I'd say that try to be honest, especially because people will usually find out, but if you do end up lying to those you love, own up to it and hold yourself accountable. Be willing to accept the consequences and work to fix it, that's the best answer I can really give.
