What is the relationship between decisions and consequences? How do we know how to make a good decision?

Answer 1

Everything in this world is connected to everything else. What you do and say matters. Making "good" decisions involves perceived and real consequences. First you have to establish what "good" means to you. Then you need to sort out the consequences into "Pro" and "con"

Most stuff is arbitrary though, choices of products you use is purely a problem of functionality. What works best?

Choices with relationships are different, and largely involve considering people as well as yourself. Here are some questions that help me when I'm making decisions about relationships:

What works best for all of us?

Am I making this decision out of fear?

Am I making this decision out of shared trauma?

Am I making this decision to make my life easier?

Am I helping/hurting/hindering/enabling?

Is this creating more or less opportunities/benefits for me?

Am I telling myself the truth about all the factors?

Are the consequences for my actions commensurate with the action?

(If i jump off this thing, will the thrill be worth the potential broken leg?) and so forth.

These are only a few examples of questions you can ask yourself about decisions and their consequences.

My best take? Decide what types of things are important to you, and make decisions that best position you to have, experience, and enjoy those things.