The ball exerts a force on the earth which is so the conservation of momentum says m1*v1 =m2*v2 where m1 and v1 refer to the ball and m2 v2 refer to the earth, solving this for v2 (the resulting velocity of the earth) gives v2=m1*v1/m2 recall that m2 is about 6*1024kg. no matter how big m1*v1 is m2 so large the v2 can not be detected.
With regard to pushing the chair friction between your feet and the floor is what keeps you from moving. Think of you standing on ice (very low friction) pushing on the chair. Draw a free body diagram and lable all the forces and torques.
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Jim