Jenny L. answered 03/29/19
professional with extensive hands-on GIS experience
One "bible" is the U.S. Geological Survey's publications by Snyder, https://pubs.usgs.gov/pp/1453/report.pdf
which has the technical spin.
Layman's cheatsheet would be ESRI chapter at http://downloads2.esri.com/support/documentation/ao_/710Understanding_Map_Projections.pdf