Hi Dan,
I'm not a career mathematician, so I can only venture a guess at this answer.
My guess is, given a complex number z = a + bi, and two different (but perfectly valid) candidates for its conjugate:
z1 = a - bi
z2 = -a + bi
We define z1 to be the conjugate of z simply because z1 is far more useful (and special) than z2.
Let's go back to elementary algebra for a quick example of z1's usefulness.
Solve for x:
x2 + 2x + 5 = 0
We'd use the quadratic formula to find that:
x = -1 ± 2i
The two solutions to this problem are x1 = -1 + 2i and x2 = -1 - 2i, the complex conjugate of x1 (so long as we define the complex conjugate as we currently do -- as z1, not as z2).
In fact, any time you end up with complex solutions to a quadratic equation, the solutions will always be complex conjugates. We can go further and say that any time you end up with complex roots to any polynomial function (cubic, quartic... quintic(??), etc.), the complex roots will always come in pairs. If 3 + 5i is a root, then 3 - 5i will also end up being a root.
z1 turns out to be pretty useful in this case, while z2 is kind of useless.
There are other examples of the usefulness of z1 (and the complete uselessness of z2), and I think you're about to learn all about them in your math class. Complex conjugates, as long as they're defined as z1, will end up being pretty powerful tools as you continue your studies.
I hope this helps. Maybe a real mathematician can pop in and provide you with a more satisfactory answer. :)
Al P.
03/09/17