Julian M. answered 03/05/23
Communications specialist, pro storyteller, college debate
I actually agree with your critique. I am a former champion debater and speaker, and now I run a weekly podcast and do presentations and workshops as well as tutoring. I moved away from competitive debate because I found that it emphasizes the wrong set of skills as a communicator. This is not to say that debate is wrong or unhelpful, but it's a bit of a double-edged sword for exactly the reasons you suggest. It tends to train people to superficially attack others' ideas and make whatever arguments "win," rather than training deeper reflection and meaningful dialogue. And unless your goal is to become an aggressive negotiator or industry lobbyist of some kind (and perhaps even then), this is the wrong approach.
So, perhaps a certain amount of competitive debate is helpful, but for students seeking to develop more useful real-world mastery of communications, I would suggest a holistic curriculum including storytelling, theater, speech (like toastmasters), leadership training, and embodied practices like breathwork meditation or athletics (it cannot be overstated how much confidence and speaking power comes from strong relationship with the body).
This is the kind of holistic mixed-modality skills development that I personally practice, and it's also what I encourage and coach in others. Aggressive debate and weaponized rhetoric have very limited application. Leading and teaching effectively has more to do with genuinely inspiring and understanding others, and involves deep listening just as much as it does speaking.