Mark H. answered 08/02/19
Tutoring in Math and Science at all levels
To say it another way: If the forces were not equal, it would mean that some other external force was being applied to the system. If the 2 vehicles are the only objects in the game, there is no way to have another external force.
Newton says: For any force applied to a mass, there is an equal and opposite reaction (force). You push on a rock with 1 # of force, and it pushes back on you--also with 1#.