This is a good question! Sometimes it is hard to see how Newton's Laws are playing out, but upon deeper study, they always appear to be (as far as we can tell). Let us consider this case of punching a wall and the wall breaking:
Newton's Third Law is that "for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction." This is sometimes rephrased with the word "force" inserted for action, which works fine, too.
This is probably easiest to understand if we just place a fist or open hand against the wall and begin to push (this makes it a static problem instead of a dynamic problem). At the point where the hand and wall meet, the hand is pushing against the wall and the wall back against the hand with equal amounts of force. If we increase the amount of force being applied with the hand, the countering force from the wall will increase proportionally.
This continues until the forces are great enough that something breaks, at which time one of the structures -- either the wall or hand -- will no longer be able to support the forces in play and collapses.
The case of punching or hitting a wall is (or seems) more complicated because we have a moving fist, so there are some momentum, kinetic energy, and related issues to take into account, but if we were able to slow it down the process is very similar to the above. Also, we need to keep in mind that the person punching or pushing on the wall is exerting sideways, friction-based force on the floor via his feet. The floor is countering this. This forces gets transferred through the house structure down to the earth. The wall will have the same going on, with the forces translating through the structure down to the earth (where they ultimately cancel out).