I would have one of my own students, when encountering this problem, take a few minutes to write things like "2x + 3x = 5x, 4x - x = 3x, etc." and then have them do "x * 3x = 3x^2". You know, pick 20 or so random things to write where you're first adding, then multiplying.
It seems like busy work, but because the idea is confusing if you think it through, it's worth it to spend 10 minutes or so just training your brain to do it. Next time you ask this question, think it through once, spend 10 minutes drilling the correct answer to your question, and you'll probably never stumble over this again.
That's a page I took from martial art training, actually, where the idea is to train your muscles to know how to make the moves so you don't have to think through them. Same idea here, just different moves.