My life is not happy after being at this job for three months, can I leave the job?

Question

I work in a hospitality job, first few days of being there was alright but after afew months I started to realise that this isn't the right fit for me...this job is hard working and there is so much to remember

I don't feel like i'm apart of the team
I wake up dreading to go back
I never create a smile on my face, or I never laugh (everyone else is laughing with each other and having a good time)
I feel like i'm letting the company down by my emotions, mistakes and actions.
I don't think my boss likes me and I can see why
I can sometimes feel abit of laughter behind my back from my co-workers whenever I make a mistake (makes me feel dumb)
I feel scared and anxious the night before about going back (ruins my night)
I lose confidence instead of gaining it (I've had terrible confidence from the beginning so this isn't helping)
I have a major stutter in my speech which reduces my confidence of explaining something to the boss (I can't say a word so he will but in, making me think he is irritated by my stuttering)
I got to prepare myself, close my eyes and take a deep breath before entering my work placement just to give me a little bit of hope that I will get through it without feeling down and anxious all day

Above and beyond, i'm on my lunch break right now and I don't want to go back in there, i'm afraid, anxious and a little bit scared. A lot of people have said to me "be strong" "stay strong" "over time it will get better". This never works, even when I tell it to myself everyday...I even put little courage notes in my calender, "it's another 13 hour day, you can do it, smile and you will get through it"

I believe 3 months is enough to determine if you're happy with a job or not, I didn't expect myself to be miserable within this job but I am and I want to leave...no re position, no talking through it...I.want.too.leave. Im 20 years old and I want to start working on the job I love to do, while achieving goals I have not yet achieved

Please let me know if it's the right thing to do, I believe my happiness is worth more than money

Answer 1

"An alarming 70% of those surveyed in a recent Gallup poll either hate their jobs or are completely disengaged ..."

    --   http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/70-u-s-workers-hate-job-poll-article-1.1381297

 

First, realize how common your feelings are;  that means that many people are seeking solutions.

 

The word "underemployed" if often used of people who have a job (even just part-time) for the necessary money, but are qualified for a better job.  Such a situation affects attitude -- and attitude has a major influence on productivity.  Locally, I illustrate this by comparing Chick-Fil-A to Wal*Mart to the DMV [note: apologies to them as appropriate] -- their customer service is characteristically different.

 

Many schools, and Job Service organizations, and Temp recruiting companies offer tests and counseling to help determine your "best fit" type of job.  It is quite reasonable to say, "Well, I know it's not this or that, but I don't know what it is yet."

 

Most temp recruiting companies make money from a "temp-to-hire" approach in which they place you in a position, but can change your assignment easily if you or the employer are unhappy.

 

In my experience as a manager I saw many cases of unhappy people venting their complaints when they left a job.  They regretted that later when references were required.  I also observed people who complained about their last job during a job interview.  What were these people thinking?  --  managers are looking for people who will appreciate the job that will be offered.

 

Money is important.  So is good relationships with boss and coworkers, customer service skills, and career path.  Attempt to make at least a 5-year plan for what, realistically, you would like to do, would like to learn, and would like to become.  Then, review and revise you plan pretty often.

Answer 2

Darren,

 

Everything Michael J. said has merit.  You definitely need a back up
plan prior to departing a job in the current economy.  However; you
have told us many reasons why you are unhappy in the job, but
nothing about your overall situation otherwise.
 
Do you have another means of supporting yourself?  Are you single,
married, living alone, renting a home or apartment ... etc.? If you
have a viable means of support - i.e., a way to pay your bills, purchase
food and necessities, and keep a roof over your head, etc. - and
people on whom you can count for assistance should you decide to leave
this job, then you may want to consider doing it.  But, as Michael also said,
first try talking to your boss and expressing some of your concerns.
Possibly, given the communication problem, you may want to write down
your main concerns and give it to your boss - but, if so, do it in person so
you can discuss the issue with him/her.
 
As Michael said, do not leave a job if you have no other means of supporting
yourself.  First have a solid back up plan.  If you truly feel the need to
depart this job then first put real effort into finding another one.  When you
have another job, then put in proper notice and depart the one you have.
 
Your happiness and emotional well being are extremely important, but so is
your physical well being which requires a means of self support.

 

Best of luck in whatever decision you make.

Answer 3

You should know that there is no perfect job.  You are dealing with the ups and downs of a job.  Every job has one.  But if you are gaining a lot of experience in the job and it has decent pay, they you should stick with it.  Considering that jobs are scare in this time period, it is unwise to quit without a backup plan.  Especially, if you are only working one part-time job.

 

I also read that you have a stuttering issue in your speech.  I have the same problem too.  I think the best thing for you to do is to practice communication and converse more with people.  Perhaps think about what you want to say before you say it.  Thinking and speaking at the same time could help delay speech.  The less you speak, the worse your issue gets.

 

If you are having problems with your co-workers, then inform your boss.  If that does not help, notify human resources.

 

What gives you the notion that your boss does not like you?  The boss has the most stressful position in every job.  There are times he/she may feel overwhelmed and express it using facial gestures.  This does not mean the boss does not like you.  If you perform your responsibilities well, then you will be in good standing with your boss.