Question about growing out my hair?

Question

So I’m a young male, and I’m currently trying to grow my hair out long so I have almost a feminine style. I’ve had a crew cut my entire life, so I want to do this to change up how people see me. Right now it’s in an awkward stage between being short and long, and I have no idea how to control it. Whenever I wash my hair with shampoo and conditioner, it gets super puffy and wavy and almost looks like an Afro (I’m white). If I wash it, then give it a day, it looks fine since it has some natural oils in it, but it’s still uncontrollably wavy. I also feel like the bangs are disproportionately long compared to my side hair, and while I can hide them by swooping them to the side, if I get hit with a blast of wind from the side I look like Donald trump with a full head of hair. I know I should go see a hair stylist, but this is actually my second time growing out my hair. The first time I tried to get my bangs cut back a bit and it “cleaned up a tiny bit” and the woman gave me such a bad haircut I had to tell her to shave it all off and give me a crew cut. Do you think this was a stylist problem, or should I just tough it out and wait till my hair grows long naturally?

Answer 1

HI. It appears you went to the wrong salon professional. You can opt to wait a bit longer so that you have some wiggle room when you go to get a cut. However, you're growing it out from a "crew cut" situation and so your hair will be round until you get it properly cut and shaped.

You probably should find a hairstylist who can help you style your hair using the right products and tools. You are most likely using the wrong brush, tools, and/or not using the right technique to style your hair.

Go to YouTube and look up how to style your hair. Many professional brands have how-to videos such as those to market the product of course, but they have great ways to show how to properly style the hair.

Also, when you decide to find a salon professional, do your research and go by quality, not by price.

Best of luck.

Answer 2

In my opinion, I think it was a stylist problem but I would wait it out. But to help, you could use a roller brush and partially curl it when you dry it, to see if that would help.