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It's Okay to Ask For Help

Through our tendencies of human nature, we don't like to ask for help. We want the recognition, the glory and the credit to be given to only ourselves. Unfortunately, the thought that we can single-handedly do everything on our own is a huge misconception. The world has been built on a foundation of people working together to towards a common goal. The world needs individuals to work together to brainstorm and execute plans for the future.
 
School and college provide opportunities to work together. Through group projects, presentations, senior design projects, etc. students are asked to work with one another. It is, rather unfortunate, that sometimes we are paired with people who we do not work well with, but that is life. School and college provide students with opportunities to work with people and adapt to others ways--whether we like them or not.
 
Now, when one must adapt to another's ways (for example a teacher's or professor's) it can sometimes be confusing. This is where asking for help from an outside party can help. When a professor or teacher cannot convey the message to you in a way you understand, tutors and peers can help make it more clear. That is where my job, as well as all the other tutors on Wyzant.com jobs come in. We are a community, here to help you and your children find clarity in a teacher's lessons. We are here to help your child succeed and excel in school and various subjects.
 
So don't be afraid to ask for help. We all want to help and see your child succeed.

Comments

Hello Sabrina,

How right you are. If I may add to your most erudite blog, the construct of 'shame' plays a key role in our unwillingness to reach out to others. We feel as though we are going to be judged as incompetent or unable to do something that we should be more than capable of doing, and so there is an element that we upon comparing ourselves with our peers, immediately feel shamed that we are just not up to speed as others might be. We may not even care about the reasons why, because we are more focused on the reaction others will have towards us once we open ourselves to ask the question. 

Another element, that I mentioned in passing above, is this comparison of ourselves to others which is highly unproductive and counter-productive to our respective identity. The unfortunate part of this dynamic is once we begin comparing ourselves to others, we tend to be much harsher on ourselves than others may be towards us.

Finally, we do live in a highly individualistic society these days, and I am not speaking about political ideologies which support this notion either. Community is viewed by many as something bad, and often when speaking in terms of politics we hear the term associated in a negative manner to some in our culture. 

In any event, your Blog is spot on and incisive in its analysis and I remain grateful for the people like yourself who see the inherent value of community and the subsequent benefit of reaching out to others when a need is present. Once again thanks for a great post. 
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