The skill that we should all learn well is Listening. Listening is the beginning of Understanding. . . Wisdom is the reward for a lifetime of listening.
Let the wise listen and add to their learning and let the discerning get guidance. Proverbs 1:5
Highly effective people spend most of their time listening. To understand another's point of view is the highest form of intelligent behavior. Piaget called this "overcoming egocentrism." Senge and his colleagues (1994) suggest that "to listen fully means to pay close attention to the message beneath the words." We spend 55% of our lives listening, but it isn't taught in the public schools. Good listeners don't have to agree with what is being said, just know what the disagreement is about, by having listened attentively.
Taken from Habits of the Mind by Costa and Kallick