Imagine the audience in their underwear!
This is an old tip from who-knows-where. Has it ever helped reduce your public speaking anxiety? I'm going to take a wild guess and say your answer is "no". If you're happy with this underwear envisioning tip, then carry on. If you feel you need something
more to help with your public speaking anxiety, read on!
Public speaking can be downright terrifying for many people. But here's the good part: it doesn't have to be. By using at least one of the tips below, you can make your presentation less nerve wracking and more enjoyable than you ever thought possible.
So without further ado, here are a few tips to help with your next presentation:
Look at the tops of their heads
Now you might be thinking "aren't you supposed to give people direct eye contact or they might think you're lying?" Well, yes that's true. However, in a presentation setting, you are at the front...
A lot of people don't connect clear speaking with writing skills, but I've noticed that lots of students, from elementary school through college make errors in spelling and grammar because of the influence of hearing others pronounce words incorrectly.
For example, "I don't know weather I'm going" or "Could you be quite, please? or "Me and my friend are...." The first two contain errors in spelling; the third has an error in grammar. But the way people
pronounce words or use ungrammatical speech can "crossover" into written language. And the less someone reads, the more apt this is to happen. I observe these errors a lot when I'm tutoring.
I studied voice articulation with someone considered to be the "best" teacher of this subject in the country, and proper pronunciation was drilled into me. Here's a little exercise to practice differentiating "whether" from "weather."
Do you have a friend you want to officially beat in a debate? Are my fees too high? Do you like showing off in front of people?
If this sounds like you than bringing a friend is the perfect solution! Friends are only 10$ more making it fun and cheap!
But all good things must end. The largest a group can be is six persons, no more. More than six is just redundant unless it is a lecture.
"But Ben!" You exclaim, "What would we do with extra people? Wouldn't they just get in our way?"
No. While it is true only one person can speak at a time the whole point of public speaking is to be persuasive and convince people. Whether you are trying to sell, inspire, or simply entertain there is no point in speaking if there is no audience. Multiple
people means an educated discussion with a professional moderator.
But wait! It gets better... we can have debates!
Although I am rarely asked to organize debates they...
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Public Speaking- From Fear to Fierce
I went to a high school that put great emphasis on classical skills: Logic, Latin, and Rhetoric. The term “rhetoric” has a bad reputation in today’s society that is completely undeserved. The word “rhetoric” simply referred to the art of communication, often
in public speaking or in discussion format.
That discussion aside, I loved the methods that we were taught to overcome that fear of public speaking, and I think that others could benefit as well. I remember the first time that each person in our ninth grade class had to present a paper to our history
class. We were all white-knuckled clutching our entirely pre-written papers that must have only been two or three hand written pages in length. Shaking knees and even shakier voices were quite prevalent. The next year, when we started rhetoric classes, I watched
those same students, including myself, giving speeches fifteen minutes or longer with very little noticeable...
I used to be a quiet person who didn't like to talk in front of a group of people for fear of making a mistake and having them laugh at me. Luckily, I learned from my high school basketball coach that making mistakes is a good thing, and nothing to be
ashamed about. "How can it be a good thing?" I wondered.
She told me that my fear of making mistakes was paralyzing me, so much so that I was not allowing myself to try new things and new approaches.
Many of my international students come to me with the same fears. They are too ashamed of their limited spoken English, preferring to sit and listen, rather than try new situations and challenge themselves. My goal with any new student is to help them
understand, the same way my basketball coach helped me to understand, that they are free to make as many mistakes as they can when they are with me. Together, with my guidance, they will learn from their mistakes...
Philosophy of Education for M.J. T.
To me the purpose of education is threefold:
(1) provide students with a basis of knowledge,
(2) teach students how to reason so that they can continue their education throughout their lives, and
(3) instill in them a life-long excitement about and love of learning.
Students must acquire a basis of knowledge, a framework on which to sort out and understand how various aspects of information in any subject area fit together to make the whole picture of where we have been and where we are going as a civilization. Science
affects philosophy which affects the arts … ad infinitum. Nothing exists in a vacuum-sealed box. All knowledge is recursive and intertwined - reaches out and affects many areas outside the discipline in which it begins. I liken this basis of knowledge to a
needlepoint tapestry mesh framework. The threads of different strands of information are worked in at various points. In some way every thread touches every...
My cousin once asked, "Where do you get your confidence?” Before I had time to consider the idea, the response came out, "I've made mistakes, and I'm not afraid to make mistakes in the future.” In public speaking, writing, and publishing; the speaker or
writer must be confident. Confidence builders for me always include preparation. Here are ways I prepare to write and to present.
Brainstorming. The first step is good old-fashioned brainstorming. I prepare by thinking about the topic. What do I know? What do I want the audience to know after I'm done? How will I go about finding information for the content I do not know? while driving
is one of my favorite times to ponder a topic, the audience, and the purpose of the writing or presentation. I call it TAP. Once I've considered the topic, audience, and purpose (TAP), the majority of planning is done.
The second step includes drafting. I choose to outline presentations and use paragraphing of thoughts for...
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As a communications professional for more than 28 years, I have served several times as a media relations representative - as communications director for a health care service, as a public relations firm account manager, as media relations specialist for
a political party and as a campaign manager for a city council candidate. For an aspiring media relations specialist, education is key, but the education needs to be well-rounded. My experience has taught me that prospective employers want someone with at
least a bachelor's degree in journalism/public relations or in a related field, but they also want a worldly individual with a wide base of knowledge to bring to the table. A degree in communication or English can be just as effective in providing general
education to a prospective media relations specialist.
In interviewing with a prospective employer, a candidate for a job in media relations should make clear that he or she understands working on time and monetary budgets...
Q WyzAnt wants to know
If you could go back in time and give your younger self one piece of academic or professional advice, what would it be?
My greatest piece of advice to my younger self would be to have more courage in following your true passions. For example, I knew very early on that I loved writing but was fearful that my writing "wasn't good enough" and that I couldn't "make a living
as a writer". As a result, I spent 26 years doing a corporate job that I hated only to embark on a second career that I finally feel called to do in my 40s.
If I had my academic career to do over again, I would have majored in English and creative writing and gone immediately on to graduate school focusing on a university teaching career and engaging in my own writing as a hobby. I am thankful that I am finally
doing what I feel I was born to do; I only wish I had taken the path I am currently on about twenty years sooner.
I learned in my human development class that babies learn through repetition = Rote memory
You may have also witnessed the ease with which the ABC's were learned. Mary Had a Little Lamb? Twinkle Twinkle?
It is easier to commit something to memory through a song. Why is it so easy to remember that annoying tune on the radio?
To better memorize
- Rules (Grammatical, mathematical etc)
Try putting it to a simple song tune.
Ex My 2 year old learned how to spell his name BINGO style. L-O-G-A-N.
IF I could go back in time and give my younger self some advice on how to be a better student, be more successful in school, life, etc, I would definitely tell myself that being involved in everything comes at a cost. It is better to find a few things that
you like to do, do them well and often, than feeling stressed because there is so much on your plate at one time. Being a 'Jack of all Trades' it is natural for me to dip my toes in different waters- all at the same time, but that does not mean that I can
give 100% to any of them at that time.
While I was able to get good grades (A- average) while in school, I was impressed by how much better I did- and felt about my work- the few times that I scaled back on my activities.
Another piece of advice that I wish that I could bestow upon my younger self would be to learn how to speak up in a group setting when someone is not fulfilling their part of an agreement. Now, this said, the best way to do this would be in a tactful...
I have received this question many times in many forms. The short version is it depends on what you, the student, needs. Do you (or your children) need speaking confidence? To stop stuttering? To speak loudly and proudly? But below are some specific skills
and abilities I can teach in addition to whatever you need.
Proper body movement while speaking - foot work, hand gestures, even facial expressions!
The removal of filler words - "um" "er" and improper use of "like" just to name a few.
Word choice - words like "thing" "stuff" and slang are okay for your friends but not for a crowd!
Speech writing - oh the tricks! So very, very many; but here are a few: defining words in your favor, speaking to the judge (the judge is the person or people who matter, not necessarily the crowd), and listing examples in groups of three or two (did you
notice me doing that yet? If so you have some experience already!).
In my experience working with learners from various education levels and backgrounds, I understand the feelings of frustrations and concerns that many have when struggling with a subject or studying for a test but not receiving the results you would like
or expect. It creates a feeling of helplessness or the sense that you can't overcome or you'll never get it. That's not true. With the right study skills, you can improve your confidence, preparedness, and ability in any area.
The keys to learner's success include having clear goals about what you want to achieve, learning effective study tips and strategies, pacing yourself, organizational skills, time management, academic planning and preparation, step-by-step instruction, committment
(good work ethic), practice, and building confidence in your ability to improve and achieve your goals.
It's said, if you want to succeed, try and try again. That's the only way to do it.
If you have questions about assignments or...
Hello everyone! Or should I say kazoozampola! That is Dzongkha (the national language of Bhutan) for HELLO!
After a few months away in the Land of the Thunder Dragon, the Kingdom of Bhutan, teaching at the Royal University of Bhutan, I am back and ready to see you. I am ready to apply some of the insights into teaching that I gained on this last adventure.
Every year or so I try to freshen my approach to teaching. Subjects don't change that much. Let's face it - spelling stays pretty much the same, as does the pronunciation of words, and the structure of a sentence. But HOW to teach these topics -whether to
a high school student struggling with essay writing or a business executive getting prepared for a presentation, or a non-native speaker hoping to improve his job prospects - refreshing teaching methods keeps me fresh, and keeps you interested (and helps towards
A few years ago I took some ASL (American Sign Language) courses to help inform my...
Here are some of my favorite quotes on education:
"Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever."
"Intelligence plus character--that is the true goal of education."
--Martin Luther King, Jr.
"The mind is not a vessel to be filled, but a fire to be kindled."
"The educated differ from the uneducated as much as the living differ from the dead."
"Knowledge will bring you the opportunity to make a difference."
"You'll never know everything about anything, especially something you love."
"If you think education is expensive, try ignorance."
"Education is the power to think clearly, the power to act well in the world's work, and the power to appreciate life."
"Learning is not attained by chance, it must be sought for...
While managing call centers in my corporate career, I developed a telephone presentation tool to help reps work with customers and prospects. Little did I know that I had created a useful content creation tool for written or spoken communications.
I eventually called it the “PBFA Model”—“P” meaning pain, “B” for benefit, “F” for feature and “A” for advantage. While sales people for years have used feature/benefit presentations, many of them missed discussing prospect PAIN. Instead of pain, you could
also substitute need, want, desire or expectation.
In the first part of this blog post, I’ll briefly discuss the model. I’ll follow up in the second part with an example that better explains the PBFA. But I guarantee you if you use the PBFA structure, you’ll write and speak more clearly and increase your
persuasiveness with people.
Imagine that you’re shopping for a new bike. You find rows and rows of new bikes in the store—different colors, mountain bikes,...
Why teaching? Why tutoring?
As a second-generation educator, I can honestly say that my education is one of the most valuable assets I possess and can share.
My mother has taught hundreds of school children and both she and my father have passed along their passion for learning to me. To this day I can remember a conversation my dad had with me when I was still in high school.
He shared with me that one of the greatest gifts about an education is learning how to learn.
Thus, it only seems right that I take what I've learned and pass it along to others in pursuit of their own discoveries.
That's why I teach. That's why I tutor.
I am proud to offer my services after more than 20 years experience. Teaching is a passion and I believe all the subjects I propose are related to the joyful personality that I have that bring a special atmosphere to my classes. My classes are targeted to
the needs of the students. I am flexible to work during all the week from 10 am to 6 pm except on weekends. I can also give evening classes or virtual ones.